I have done everything you mentioned in your post. My husband is not a yeller either, but I know he doesn't understand that my minis are needful things.
Right now we're going though this "don't ask, don't tell" period. He doesn't ask, and I don't tell.
As far as going too far, that would be if you're taking money away from your mortgage or food or bills, etc. Until then, have fun! Throw caution to the wind! Live it up!
BE HAPPY! :idea: