me-barbie Posted February 13, 2017 Share Posted February 13, 2017 Who intensely dislikes Valentines day? As a young child, I loved it..class party, cupcakes, cards and punch. Then we moved. To a school that had King and Queen of each class...the kid who got the most cards, of course. No more teacher sending a list home so everyone got one. Jr hi...not a wallflower. Part the the wall. Sr Hi, the boyfriend did not want me at the dance, he wanted to pick up other girls. University...watching the pretty girls get dates. The final nail was when I was working my 1st job after grad school... the boyfriend saying the M word....and booting me out 72 hrs later (monogamy bored him, as it turned out) So I wear black. All week. I am in the black even as I type. And it is the only holiday I dont decorate for. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shannonc60 Posted February 13, 2017 Share Posted February 13, 2017 People are idiots. We don't really have it as a holiday in Australia so it's never been an issue for me. I can see why you hate it. It's no wonder so many of us have self worth issues. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KathieB Posted February 13, 2017 Share Posted February 13, 2017 I remember putting cards on every desk in about 3rd or 4th grade. Beyond that, V-day has never loomed large in my realm. One year, a few years ago, Holly and her DH were visiting here. We met up with cousin Gloria and all of us headed out for a great New Orleans dinner. We stopped at several restaurants only to be met with long lines. It wasn't until about the 3rd stop that it dawned on us that the crowds were out to celebrate Valentine's Day. We ended up at the deli in Whole Foods and went to Gloria's, where we dined in comfort. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted February 13, 2017 Share Posted February 13, 2017 Commercial holiday... invented to sell stuff to hopeless romantics to fritter away their hard earned cash.. It's not for me.. we don't do presents in my house for any occasion. Cards only for Birthdays and that's it... And no, we are not relatives of Scrooge.. we just prefer to save up for things and experiences we REALLY want.. like ski trips and dollhouse stuff for me & ski trips and Car stuff for the DH. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
havanaholly Posted February 13, 2017 Share Posted February 13, 2017 No Valentine's celebrants here, either, and Barbie, let me tell you that I can relate to those junior high & high school experiences! There has only been one Valentine's Day I will ever cherish, and that's the one Kathie mentioned, because we got to meet Lloyd's delightful cousin, Gloria, and got to go nuts at Whole Foods' deli! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amyole Posted February 13, 2017 Share Posted February 13, 2017 Barbie, I am sorry that this week is full of so many sad memories for you. I, too, remember the cards for everyone in your class in elementary school. Beyond that, it has just been a day to wear red or pink for me. Flower prices are exorbitant at this time of year, so DH usually buys me a small bouquet from the supermarket on his way home from work. That is fine with me. I feel badly for younger girls/women who have grown up with all the commercial hype and unrealistic expectations (this is all they have known in our culture) because that sets the day up for disappointment. So, skip the hype and just be kind to yourself and others and let your inner Valentine spirit (your heart) shine through all year. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted February 13, 2017 Share Posted February 13, 2017 I hate the day too....So embarrassing to have the annual queue of Ladies down the road to my gate....and the flowers! so many flowers!...........I always select the best of the bunch and give it to Rosemary...........Who quite naturally thinks I am such a thoughtful husband! Dream on Mike......dream on! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gayle Posted February 13, 2017 Share Posted February 13, 2017 I feel the same as everyone else here, it's just another day on the calendar. I feel the same way about Mother's Day too. When my first DH was alive, he wanted to give each of our mothers the most expensive flowers he could find. Never mind that we hardly had two nickels to rub together, two growing boys and bills to pay. My boys are now under strict orders to no spend a dime on even a card. I'm happy with a phone call. Mike, any man that will take care of a sick wife, cook and clean and make the most delightful minis is aces in my book. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stickyfingers Posted February 13, 2017 Share Posted February 13, 2017 Eh. I have similar memories as a young woman, always such a disappointment, and some years, downright hurtful. My husband is a good man in many way, but not hardly a romantic bone in him. We don't "do" Valentine's at our house, but I did make a spectacular meal last night. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
L Swearengin Posted February 13, 2017 Share Posted February 13, 2017 Valentines day???? My now spouse called me on the 13th of February to kinda ask me to marry him. When I say "kinda"......he said (forgive the terminology)......."when ya gonna come up here and take care of this s***"......"I don't know anything about getting married". 34 years ago today. Haha 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KathieB Posted February 13, 2017 Share Posted February 13, 2017 9 minutes ago, L Swearengin said: Valentines day???? My now spouse called me on the 13th of February to kinda ask me to marry him. When I say "kinda"......he said (forgive the terminology)......."when ya gonna come up here and take care of this s***"......"I don't know anything about getting married". 34 years ago today. Haha That's the best V-Day story yet! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sable Posted February 13, 2017 Share Posted February 13, 2017 I've been married 41 years and don't expect anything. It's just another day. I do recall the last dozen roses I received was while we lived in Rochester, NY in 1980. The temperature was -20 F and the roses froze between the delivery car and my front door. I told my husband, please don't waist our money on roses ever again. My birthday in two days is another story. All I expect from that is a phone call from my sons. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Roxxie2 Posted February 13, 2017 Share Posted February 13, 2017 I am almost afraid to post my story now that I have read through this topic but I will anyway. I felt the same way as many of you do about this day because I was alone for many many years due to a divorce. I hated it too. 6 years ago and out of the blue I got the surprise of my life which has changed my attitude about so many things. After 40 years my college sweetheart contacted me and after a year of writing and talking on the phone we got together........41 years later and so far we are living happily ever after. I hope I don't make the Valentine haters feel bad but sometimes good things do come to those who wait. That's the short story version. At the same time, I feel that the so called holiday is over blown just like all the other commercialized holidays and it does make many people sad and upset or just plain disgusted. We don't do anything special on Valentine's Day except to feel amazed and grateful for having found our best friend again. So that's my story. Hugs 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shannonc60 Posted February 13, 2017 Share Posted February 13, 2017 That's a good story Roxy, thankyou for posting it! Every holiday means something different to everyone. If you have had bad experiences, of course you will hate it. Christmas is our awkward and difficult holiday. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Roxxie2 Posted February 13, 2017 Share Posted February 13, 2017 9 minutes ago, shannonc60 said: That's a good story Roxy, thankyou for posting it! Every holiday means something different to everyone. If you have had bad experiences, of course you will hate it. Christmas is our awkward and difficult holiday. Thanks Shannon....all holidays use to be difficult for me. For years I didn't celebrate any of them...I couldn't see the point. I still don't care for the commercialism that seems to be completely out of control on almost every holiday. I try to keep in mind the essence of the holiday and steer away from the other stuff. I feel so grateful each every day that I am here that is all that really matters. "Stuff" doesn't matter. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
josiebee Posted February 13, 2017 Share Posted February 13, 2017 I just had this conversation with my husband. I do not celebrate Valentine's Day. I don't need a day to tell me I need to buy something for my husband to show I love him, and I expect the same from him. I am so glad the years of school and being young are behind me. Both me and my husband had it difficult in school. It was so upsetting to get less cards then the popular girls did in school. At least now, everyone has to get one or else you don't pass them out. It's only been the past 2 years that I have come to terms with my past, and how others treated me. Pretty sad since I just turned 50. I was very shy and so of course targeted in my schooling years. I feel for everyone who went through it because it never really leaves you. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Roxxie2 Posted February 13, 2017 Share Posted February 13, 2017 I was a teacher for many years and in my classroom we did not do the traditional Valentine Mailbox . Some parents protested but when I explained the issue they started to appreciate why we were not doing it. Instead, we made little Valentine animals just for fun, had a party without sugar and candy ( believe it or not!) , played games and sang songs. Everyone when home happy and no one was left out. I know how you feel Joanne.....hugs for you! I agree completely, we show our love and care everyday and no need to go overboard with all the "stuff". I did bake some cookies though for my Cookie Monster! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jdodyd Posted February 13, 2017 Share Posted February 13, 2017 My husband and I just exchange cards, not a big deal. However, my mother expects (and gets) flowers, cards, chocolate, and phone calls from her daughters and grandchildren. We do it to keep her happy and to add something to her fairly uneventful life in a care center. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nolephan Posted February 13, 2017 Share Posted February 13, 2017 I have a husband who never buys me flowers or jewelry(I lose it). Instead he drives me to work when my car is misbehaving, orders (and picks up) pizza when I'd rather work on minis, takes care of me when I'm sick, does all the grocery shopping....need I say more? Oh, yes-I'd been talking about a new dollhouse and he told me to order it! Never mind the flowers and jewelry, I think I've got it pretty good. 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
me-barbie Posted February 13, 2017 Author Share Posted February 13, 2017 The year I taught 3rd grade (before scooting back to grad school), I was in an inner city school. I made damm sure that I had enough materials so kids who could not buy could make. I brought in healthy snacks, and let the kids have a party in the afternoon. No one going home hurt in *my* class. No queen/king either. 23 kids each went home with 22 cards. I covered a high school when I was a school clinician. The girls competed to see who's boyfriend had spent the most money. Felt sorry for the boys 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Roxxie2 Posted February 14, 2017 Share Posted February 14, 2017 To add insult to injury, I was married on Valentine's Day! Thank goodness I am divorced from that one and VERY happy the way things turned out! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Roxxie2 Posted February 14, 2017 Share Posted February 14, 2017 10 hours ago, amyole said: So, skip the hype and just be kind to yourself and others and let your inner Valentine spirit (your heart) shine through all year Such a nice thing to say and a great way to turn any of those negative feelings around! It ain't easy sometimes but that was just plain nice Amy! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pdlnpeabody Posted February 14, 2017 Share Posted February 14, 2017 Besides never celebrating it for religious reasons, I had a natural immunity to peer pressure - I was "the ugly kid" from 2nd grade on. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hooknink Posted February 19, 2017 Share Posted February 19, 2017 My thing about Valentine's Day is just something for high maintenance men and women. A reason to act like an immature brat because the diamond isn't big enough or there's not enough. If you can't buy me a card or small gift just because then what's the point? I'd also rather go camping. I've never been materialistic. Just a money game. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
havanaholly Posted February 19, 2017 Share Posted February 19, 2017 11 hours ago, Hooknink said: ...I'd also rather go camping... Molly, you're a kindred soul! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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