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this year my little sister started high school but the only decent one in her area is an all girls school. (my sis is in my display picture shes the one on my right who isnt grinning). i was wonderin what everyone else thought of all girls schools. personally i went to 2 different mixed sex high school's and am happy that i did as i think girls can be alot more spitefull than boys and it was good tom have a mix of friends. anyway tell me ure thoughts on it...

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I'm not raising any children, but I think that the mixed systems work better.

What mostly bothers me about separating boys and girls in school is that I feel that the sooner they learn to work and socialize together the better it is for both of them. When they head on to university, college, technical school or the workplace they'll be side by side.

I'd be interested to hear what others have to say on this subject.

-Susanne

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I am not raising children either, but I attended an all girl's high school many more years ago than I like to say. I found that I was very free to be myself, act foolish, cut up and do well in school without the concern of impressing the boys. We were linked with an all boys high school in the next city so we enjoyed all the functions of football games, dances, and social occasions, so we didn't miss out on much.

I do not regret it at all.

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I don't think going to an all girls school would be bad, particularly if the school worked with another school teaching the opposite sex to have social events to gain social skills.

As for my own, I couldn't put her in an all girls school. She's such a tomboy all her good friends ARE boys. The girls are so into gossip and boys and berating the other girls even at this young pre- preteen age - it's sad, and my tyke just isn't in to all that. Some girl told her on the way to school that the IN colors were brown and pink. My daughter replied "You know what my IN colors are? The colors I'm IN right now!" Bwaa hahahahaha!

Right now she's into Plasma Dragons and Comics. :woohoo: And I have noooo problem with that.

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I went to an all girls Grammar school, where the emphasis was on hard work, discipline and achievement. When was 14 my parents moved us to a new area where the only school available was the local mixed sex school. My education took a battering from there on in ................ like many teenage girls I was far more interested in chatting to the boys, than in paying attention. Given a choice I would send my own girls to a single sex school ............. they can socialise out of school :)

Ellen :wave:

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As for my own, I couldn't put her in an all girls school. She's such a tomboy all her good friends ARE boys. The girls are so into gossip and boys and berating the other girls even at this young pre- preteen age - it's sad, and my tyke just isn't in to all that

this is why im worried about my sister, shes (as you can see from the picture) the biggest tomboy i've ever known and nearly all her friends are boys, most certainly all her best friends are. A week or so ago a mixed school about 45 mins bus ride from her called to say they could offer her a place as someone had quit the school, she was very close to going but she asked me for my opinion as i've changed schools a few times now (3 primary schools and 2 high schools) and i said i thought she would regret it because she would have so much to catch up on and she would have to make friends all over again. But i worry now that i should have just kept quiet and let her make her own mind up :S

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There's something to be said for stability. Our girls (now 13 & 16) were in a private all-girls school in New Orleans and thriving. (The public schools there were so bad that it wasn't a choice.) Katrina put us in an area with a very good public school system. They are again thriving in a mixed-sex school, and we've decided to stay here until the youngest graduates high school.

From the way you describe her, I think that your sister will do well no matter the environment. Kids are so absorbent at this age!

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I went to an all girl's high school ..academically it is an advantage since there no boys around to "impress" and competing with other girls for the attentions of a guy wasn't an issue...but socially, it's a little difficult..especially if you are shy, since the only time that boys are around were during the dances...If I could have afforded to, I think I would have sent my daughters to an all girl school...the advantage of a good education outweighs the importance of finding a boyfriend while in high school...

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Another thing she could do is go visit the school and meet the teachers, even bringing the tyke along. You never really know the pros and cons if you only consider it in the abstract. Getting a concrete feel of both might make her feel better about her choice to keep her where she is. Then again, she might find the school offers more in other ways, or you meet a teacher who you just click with. My brother school-hopped a lot due to some learning issues. When they took him to a local church-sponsored school, after touring it I wanted to go there too! It was the best year of school for me socially and building confidence - even though I was in the last grade year they offered then it was back to public school, never regretted it...

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As a former high school math teacher, I know there are many studies that say a same sex school actually provides students a better learning environment and that girls tend to better in math and science in an all girls school than the ones in mixed sex schools.

I have had experiences with classes that were mostly male or completely male and they were very different than the mixed classes. We always hoped for some girls as a teacher because they helped calm/control the boys behavior since the boys were always trying to impress the girls. The benefit of the all girls schools will be that the girls do not have to deal with the boys who haven't matured at the same rate and often act more foolishly (perhaps to impress the girls?) and won't have to act stupid to impress the boys. I find many girls are afraid to look smarter than the boys in classes like math.

That part aside, when I do have children I hope to send them to a public mixed sex school but that is more because I believe in the public schools since I taught in them and my husband feels if we pay for schools in taxes we shouldn't have to pay tution for private school.

Well there is my 2 cents for what it is worth.

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My dad was offered a position teaching at a boy's boarding school when I was around 14. We would have lived on campus. Needless to say, I was totally thrilled and had everything I owned packed in about three minutes flat. Dad would never admit it, but I think that my enthusiasm may have been the reason he turned down the position. Darn.

Deb

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I managed to mix social development with good academic performance (National Honor Society) in a "mixed" public school, and so did DH & our three sons. A child with good study habits will do well in classes no matter what school (with good family support) and a child who is happy & secure will find his/ her own social niche. Awful teachers/ staff can crop up in any school. I think it's your family's decision.

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I managed to mix social development with good academic performance (National Honor Society) in a "mixed" public school, and so did DH & our three sons. A child with good study habits will do well in classes no matter what school (with good family support) and a child who is happy & secure will find his/ her own social niche. Awful teachers/ staff can crop up in any school. I think it's your family's decision.

I agree with Holly. I went to public and so did dh and we were both members of the National Honor Society and went on to get masters degrees. My previous comments are just the ones I have read as an educator. I think it really matters is the family support, the study habits and comfort level of the student. One reluctance I have to private schools around here is that anyone with a bachelor's degree can teach there since there are no laws about what is required as a teacher. As a public school teacher, it is a bit of a slap in the face for all the education courses we need.

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<<A child with good study habits will do well in classes no matter what school (with good family support)>>

I think that was the point I was trying to make ................ I thrived in a well disciplined environment, but lacked the self-motivation to push myself along. The first school I attended expected us to work and provided the environment to do so, the second was far more lax and, like many teenage girls, I wasn't about to do more than they evidently expected. Added to the fact they they had a nasty bullying problem. I already had the "wrong" accent and was always terrified of standing out from the crowd .......... results were often painful. I was 37 before I made it to college!

Ellen

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The first school I attended expected us to work and provided the environment to do so, the second was far more lax and, like many teenage girls, I wasn't about to do more than they evidently expected. Added to the fact they they had a nasty bullying problem. I already had the "wrong" accent and was always terrified of standing out from the crowd

I had the exact same problem as i have a london accent and am very short for my age when i changed schools half way through year 10 (aged 14/15) i got quite bullied and as the school was very laxed they did nothing and this affected me quite alot. my sister has the opposite problem as her school is incredibly strict and she is so terrified of doing anything wrong that her confidence has been quite affected and i have noticed she has been txting and calling me more regularly rather than just chatting with her friends as she normally does when she has a problem with school.

Although i must admit most of the mental bullying i have substained has been from boys, the only physical bullying has been from girls... I just worry she will be bullied as i was since she is also quite short and has an unusual name for her area (shes called Martha) although she doesn't have the accent problem i had as she still lives in london.

right ill stop now as my hand hurts lol

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I went to an all girls HS and there were pros and cons. At the time I was totally against it. As a teenager I obviously wanted to go to a coed school but my parents had other ideas. I must say that I met my very best friend to this day in HS. There was definately less pressure being there were no guys and we all wore uniforms. I got good grades for but I think I would have done scholastically the same in a coed school. Socially I may have been somewhat rebellious because my parents MADE me attend. Now that I am an adult I realize why they made the decision.

I sent my girls to a private school but it was coed. They wore uniforms and in my opinion that more than anything takes away a lot of pressure. They started out in a public school and did much better in the private school. I would never have sent them to an all girls school because again, at 15 yrs old I had so much resentment at that time for my parents sending me there and I didn't want them to feel that way. They actually thank us today for sending them to a private school because it turned their life around.

I guess what I am trying to say is I don't really like the concept of an all girls school. We don't live in an all girls society and eventually you are out of school and in the real world.

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